You are enough

June 29, 2019

Do you ever doubt yourself as a parent? Anxiety, doubt, self-consciousness are common feelings that I hear when working with parents raising children in multiracial families and more often white parents. They desire for their child to grow up proud of who they are and want them be resourceful, resilient, and strong in navigating a challenging and racist world. But underneath is often this nagging thought that they aren’t equipped, prepared, qualified as a parent to make that happen. As a parent it’s normal to sometimes question if you are doing something right. But it seems that in multiracial families, parents often white parents, question at their core if they good enough to raise their multiracial and/or child of color. So for those of you who sometimes second guess yourselves, struggle with doubt, or need reassurance, I am here to tell you, YES!

You are enough! You are exactly what your child needs!!

Your love for your child is where you get the motivation to continue to learn, grow, and adapt as a parent to meet your child’s needs as they change and as the world changes around us. It’s true you may have more to learn, you may have more of your own stuff to work through, you may need to strengthen your community, connect with people, and access more resources. But your ability to do that comes from the deep love you have for you child and the hopes and dreams you have for their future. This is what being enough looks like. You may need to learn more about the cultures that make up your child’s background. You may need to learn more about how to talk about race and racism in your family. You may need to participate more in challenging injustice in your community. But your desire to be what your child needs is enough to push you and guide to take steps forward and continue to be what they need. This is what being enough looks like. Often we may get caught up in our own identity process which causes all types of feelings. We may have different aspects of ourselves we have to sort out, explore challenging and hard feelings that come up, and really work through our own stuff. But working on ourselves to be the best parents that we can be is what makes us enough right now. Here’s how I know that you are enough. As parent you are willing to learn, grow, and adapt to meet your child’s needs. As a parent you are willing to help your child navigate challenges even if you are learning alongside them. As a parent you will humble yourself and reach out to others to make the connections that your child needs. As a parent you dream of a better world for the next generation and will do whatever you can to help your child live in that world. So stop wondering if you are enough, if you will be enough, or if you are what your child needs and just know that you are. You are exactly what your child needs.

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