Parenting is hard for everyone but for parents of multiracial families there is an additional layer of unique challenges that we have to navigate and figure out. Children start to recognize characteristics related to their identity and that of others around age 3 or 4. How do we as parents of multiracial families learn how to approach these unique issues throughout our children’s life? Who can we ask when we have questions?
Most parenting blogs and books that we come across don’t address the unique concerns that parents of multiracial families have such as:
- How to have a conversation about race and racism with your child’s school?
- How to deal with family members or friends that say microaggressions or have different political views?
- How to navigate conversations around discipline with your partner when their are so many factors including culture that come into play?
- How to decide what neighborhood to move to that will be safe and welcoming?
Here is what we as parents need from parenting blogs, books, and resources to help and support us and our multiracial families:
- How to support the healthy development of your child’s self-identity and self-worth. Learning what we can do to support this especially if you are a white parent and you are raising a child of color in this society. How do we teach these concepts to our children when it’s not what they are hearing or seeing in our mainstream culture. We need to know what techniques can we do at home as well as when we are out in the world. We want to know what can we do at each age that is developmentally appropriate. We also aren’t sure how much is too much. How do we know how much attention to put on identity?
- How to have challenging conversations with your child, partner, family, and friends. We often struggle with how to bring up certain topics and worry about the best way to talk about issues. We want to make sure that we have the knowledge and insight that we need to be prepared for these conversations. We want to know which strategies work best for these conversations whether you are educating a family member about race or having a parenting disagreement with your partner.
- How to advocate for your child. We know we have and will come across situations that are messed up and harmful for our child no matter how much we try to prevent it. We want to know what the best techniques are to advocate in these situations. What will be most successful in changing the situation or preventing it from happening again. How can we use our power as a parent to advocate for our child.
What are your go-to people, blogs, books and/or resources for parenting advice? Have you checked out our U Power Change community for mom’s to talk about what it’s like to be a parent in a multiracial family? Come join us as here as we offer each other support and a non-judgemental space to ask for advice, learn about resources, and celebrate our families.