Written by Rorri Geller-Mohamed, LCSW
April 20, 2019
Recently, I’ve been talking to alot of adults who grew up in multiracial families to get insight and advice as I develop a new program to support parents raising kids in multiracial families. As we talk about identity development and what was missing and what was needed, there is one thing that seems to be clear. We need to be ready to help our kids deal with identity issues.
I wanted to share this quote (with permission of course) from a woman that identifies as mixed because she beautifully shares both her struggles as well as her hopes.
Her experience provides us with so much information about the experience of children growing up in multiracial families and the work we have to do as parents. We have to really prioritize how we are helping our kids develop that confidence and sense of identity that she so strongly desired and felt was missing.
Here are some thoughts for us to consider:
Open communication about identity and belonging.
Identify what your child needs to feel a sense of belonging in spaces and communities.
Deep understanding about our own identity.
Her voice is one perspective but it is definitely a common theme that I have heard when talking with other multiracial adults. We are fortunate that our children are growing up in a generation where multiracial families and discussions around identity are increasingly common. Let’s take advantage of it and help make her hope “for the next generation of mixed kids to have a lot more confidence and sense of identity” come true!
To the next generation.
Here are a few ways U Power Change can help support your multiracial family:
Are you feeling challenged as a parent of a multiracial family?
Schedule a parenting support call to discuss how we can help. On the call, we will talk about what’s coming for you, what you are stuck on, and what’s going on for you and your family. We will also explore your hopes and desires for your family and talk about what could be helpful to improve the challenge and get you unstuck.
Join the community
Looking for a supportive community of like minded parents? Join the Multiracial Parenting Network.
THRIVE Parent Coaching Program
This could be a very valuable tool to help support your child’s self-esteem, self-worth, and confidence. For showing up at school, Rorri.
The first time I ever had the feeling of being different because I was part of a multiracial family was in high school. My brother who is brown and Mexican was adopted into my white and Jewish family. Can you relate to feeling like this? How do you handle it?
When you are in the situation it can often feel easier to avoid it and try to push it away. I invite you to try a new approach and not give up. Find here 9 ways to approach the subject.