Written by Rorri Geller-Mohamed, LCSW
January 25, 2020
As a therapist and parent coach, I do as much as I can to help parents work from a proactive place instead of reactive. There is so much that we can do to educate ourselves and learn skills that can really make a difference in raising children in a multiracial family. We can be proactive by talking about issues of race and racism on a regular basis with our kids. We can be proactive by making sure that our kids have racial mirrors in their lives. We can be proactive by ensuring we are fostering open communication with our kids. We can be proactive by connecting with a supportive community. When can be proactive by doing our own racial identity development work. We can be proactive by building relationships with staff at our child’s school.
When we are proactive, our kids feel:
If we are not proactive, our kids end up struggling with their feelings of self worth, sense of belonging, and an overall sense of self. This leads them to a higher risk for things like behavior issues, academic challenges, mental health struggles, alcohol and drug use, poor relationship choices, and risk taking behaviors.
As parents, it’s our responsibility to know and do as much as we can. For white moms raising kids of color, it is so important that we are always learning and growing. It is necessary that we are consistently holding ourselves accountable in anti-racism work.
Think about the many ways that you are proactive in your parenting approach when it comes to the unique factors that make up multiracial families. What might you be able to add to be more proactive? What do you wish you knew more about? What makes being proactive challenging? How will your child benefit from you being proactive?
My challenge for you is to choose one step that you could take this week that would push you to be more proactive.
To proactive parenting.
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