How do I support the Black people that I love and care about in my life as a white person right now?

Written by admin

May 31, 2020

One of the most common questions that I’m hearing is how do I support the Black people that I love and care about in my life as a white person right now? 

Here’s the best answer that I give at this moment:
We as white people need to learn and recognize how deeply ingrained white supremacy is into everything in our lives.  We need to realize how we are not fighting for others but we are actually fighting for our own humanity and liberation as well.  We need to commit to a process of learning, growing, and taking action that is challenging and liberating.  We need to be helping other white people in our lives do the same and get involved in liberation work.  Listen, listen to what Black people are saying they need right now.  Listen to what the Black people in your life are saying.  Many of the articles that I’ve included here give you the opportunity to listen as well.    

The U Power Change community which includes our Facebook group the Multiracial Parenting Network is made up of a diverse group of parents and families and so to all of the Black members of our community, we see you, we care about you, and we will continue to fight to dismantle this hateful system.  This has been such a heartbreaking week on top of what already has been so hard.  Black Lives Matter! White supremacy and systemic racism must be dismantled.  Black people are not ok and none of the rest of us (white people) should be either.  We (white people) need to use this time of crisis to look internally, reflect more than we ever have before, and then we need to be doing the liberation work that is necessary.  

Here are some important articles and resources that I came across:
– Black People Need Stronger White Allies — Here’s How You Can Be One

– Dear white friends—I need you to love my sons as they grow into black men

– From Christian Cooper to George Floyd: A Letter To White Parents

– Beyond the Hashtag: How to Take Anti-Racist Action in Your Life

– Your Black Colleagues May Look Like They’re Okay — Chances Are They’re Not

– The Pandemic Is the Right Time to Defund the Police

– Abolition Study

– Bail Funds Links

– How to Support Protesters in Every City

“The goal is not just to have people learn about white supremacy, but to understand how their personal lives support it.” 
: Black People Need Stronger White Allies — Here’s How You Can Be One (First Link above)

I shared my experience talking to my 4 year old son about George Floyd and racism on facebook as a way to help others that may be struggling with what or how to have this conversation.  I debated if I should post about it but I know I struggled on ways to have the conversation and thought it might be helpful for others to get ideas and hear experiences.  It’s a work in progress and of course a continued conversation.  I received praise that I don’t deserve because this should be the norm and is my responsibility in raising an actively anti-racist child.  The praise needs to be going to all of the Black parents that have been having these difficult conversations about race and racism for years.  But in case you find it helpful as well, I’m adding it here.     

If you are struggling with questions or next steps to take action, please reach out.  You can email me at or message me. This work is so important to me and I want to help and support in any way I can. 

To humanity and liberation.



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