Are you at a crossroad in your relationship? Are you unsure if it is worth your time and energy trying to work on it? Do love your partner but a lot of issues keep coming up? Do you have times when things are great but also times when it feels really hard? If you said yes to any of these questions, know that you are not alone.
It’s actually not that uncommon to be in a relationship that could use improvement. Many of us need to work on communicating with each other better, solving problems in a more effective way, and being more aware of the role our upbringing plays in our thoughts and actions. After all, aren’t we all really a work in progress trying to be better versions of ourselves?
Staying in a place in your relationship where it feels like an emotional roller coaster isn’t healthy and won’t make you happy. So how do you know if there is potential to go from where your relationship is now to be stronger, happier, and healthier?
Here are the 4 signs that your relationship has the potential to grow and be better than you can imagine:
- You are BOTH committed to working on improving it. I can’t stress the both enough. It can’t be that just one of you wants it to work. You both have to actually want it to get better. You both have to be willing to make changes together to improve it. It’s ok if you aren’t sure how to get there but you need to be open to trying.
- You need to both be willing to do something different than you have tried before. Obviously, what you have already tried hasn’t worked yet so don’t expect to keep doing the same thing and get different results. You won’t. You need to build new skills to improve what isn’t working. You need new techniques and strategies to break out of old patterns. This may look like relationship coaching or counseling, a relationship program or class, doing a relationship workbook together, or anything else that will help you learn new ways of handling your challenges.
- You know that there is a possibility of a future for you together. You love each other. You have fun together. You enjoy spending time together. You miss each other when you are apart. You can imagine it getting better.
- The relationship means enough to you that if for some reason it didn’t work out, you would at least want to know that you had given it your all. You would be disappointed knowing that it ended without you trying your hardest. You can appreciate learning more about yourself and how to be the best person and partner that you can be because you know that no matter what happens you can carry that with you.
Does your relationship have potential but are you unclear of what to do next to fix it? Are you ready for it to be happier, healthier, and stronger but unsure of how to get there?
Here are some ways that I can help you:
- Join my FREE U Power Change Community on Facebook to get relationship tips, advice, and meet other people in a similar situation.
- Join my revamped Mix Match and Blend Online Relationship and Family Program to help couples at a crossroad in their relationship move forward. Strengthen your relationship with your partner and your family as you navigate your way to a happy life and long lasting relationship.
- Schedule your free relationship consultation with me. We’ll meet for a short video call where you can tell me about your relationship struggles and challenges and I can provide you with my perspective, recommendations, and how I might be able to help. Send an email to Rorri@upowerchange.com with the word CONSULT in the subject and I’ll contact you to set it up.
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Rorri Geller-Mohamed, LCSW is a family therapist, relationship coach, and founder of U Power Change. She helps couples and families strengthen their relationships, prevent and heal strained family relationships, and guides them to a happy and harmonious life. She is passionate providing multiracial, multicultural, and multifaith couples and families with opportunities and resources to meet their unique challenges. Outside of her professional training, her unique perspective comes from being in an interfaith relationship (she is Jewish and her husband is Muslim), raising her 2 young children in a multicultural and multifaith environment, and her upbringing in a multiracial family with a sibling that is Latino.