Written by Rorri Geller-Mohamed, LCSW
October 5, 2019
Are you a white mom or do you know one? You might be thinking why is she starting off a blog with that question or what does it matter. For this particular article it does because I’m hoping you will say yes to attending my free webinar that I’m doing this week. The content is focused on issues that white moms that are raising children of color experience and feel a lack of support in how to handle it. Does that mean people from all racial backgrounds wouldn’t benefit? No, of course not but it is focused on what tools and strategies could help white moms navigate issues of race and racism. I will be sharing a parenting approach rooted in empowerment, connection, and anti-racism and a method for building your child’s confidence and appreciation for who they are.
Maybe you think you already know everything there is to know about white privilege, guilt, and fragility and how it affects your family. Maybe you are questioning my judgement and if I am being racist by creating a webinar focused on white moms (isn’t everything centered on whiteness already? Isn’t that enough?). Maybe you are thinking what does this white mom and therapist really know about this issue and shouldn’t we be learning this from a person of color. To be honest, these are all thoughts that have crossed my mind as well, things we will be addressing on the webinar, and also exactly the reason why this type of webinar is so needed.
Through both my work as a therapist and personal life, I’ve experienced white moms (myself included) who want to do best by their kids but often aren’t sure what the right thing to do is in a situation relating to race and/or racism and often feel at a loss of how to approach it. We often feel isolated not knowing other parents dealing with this or other white people doing anti-racism work.
Both parenting and anti-racism work go hand in hand and are a lifelong commitment. It is essential as white moms that we commit to making that happen. This webinar was created to give you the tools and strategies to help you make that happen. I also know that for me to provide you with what you need (both in this webinar and through my services) my experience of being a white mom and therapist isn’t enough. This is why I hired a new U Power Change team member (more details to come soon) that specializes in diversity, inclusion, and liberation work, is a person of color, and is coaching and guiding me to be accountable on issues of race and racism in my work.
Of course this webinar is open to everyone of all racial backgrounds and we even encourage other family members (dads, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.) to attend and many may benefit but we will be focusing on issues related to whiteness that show up in multiracial families (blind spots, white privilege, white fragility, etc.)
- To navigate issues of race and racism at your child’s school, in your family, and in your community
- To help your child build a strong sense of self, identity, and belonging
- To show up for your child in the way that they need
- To deepen your relationship and improve communication with your child
You can sign up here. I hope to see you there. As always, feel free to reach out if you have any questions or concerns.
To parenting in a multiracial family.
We worry about saying the wrong thing which often keeps us silent, I’ve had the opportunity to speak to some white moms about issues of race and racism. Here’s what I took away from these conversations…
In family therapy, we are often working on how to resolve conflict, strengthen family relationships, and improve communication
It can be frustrating and hard when white people just don’t get it. How often this season have you heard white people in your life say you were being too “sensitive” or take things too “seriously” for?